Upon first glance of this title, you may be thinking to yourself that this is a really harsh statement. Unfortunately for the majority of most addicts, this heading is all too real as death becomes the only solution to their problems. Anxiety and fears only heightens for the addict as the pain of change freezes the addict like a deer in headlights. Besides the medical explanation of the “disease” model of addiction; this fear of changing is exactly what keeps the individual suffering from a life-threatening drug or alcohol problem…“STUCK”. Is doom and gloom the only possible outcome for the addict? If addiction is a disease and hope seems so far away, what is the solution to such a devastating situation? Beyond the absolute need for a higher power to become intimately involved; Zion Recovery Center offers a few life-saving tips to help every addict change the way they think, do and feel. First, it is really important to consider the approach of change itself:
If you focus on results, you will never change.
If you focus on change, you will get results.
– Jack Dixon
This means, you are whatever you think about most of the time. Or in other words, “as a man/woman thinketh, so is she/he”. However, this is only a part of the full equation as the fear and pain of change still exists. In fact, when the pain of status quo becomes greater than the pain of change, is the only time the addict will finally allow for both a revolutionary and radical change in their life to occur. Before any real and lasting change can be accomplished, you must be willing to sacrifice your old ways of “doing” things and start from scratch.
“If you want what you’ve never had, you have to do what you’ve never done.”
– Megan Miller
Another great quote here concisely explains exactly how the addict can truly find out if recovery based principles are indeed going to work.
“Only a real risk tests the reality of a belief.”
What exactly constitutes a real risk? The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous continually urges the addict to be willing to experiment and see for themselves if God can do for you what you cannot do for yourself. So if only a real risk can test the reality of a belief, how far are you willing to go to discover the truth? When it comes to active addiction, the user fears no consequences of their substance abuse such as but not limited to: loss of finances and/or personal property, child custody battles, divorce, overdose and/or death, incarceration, DUI, involvement with the law, and so on. For whatever reason(s) the addict continually tests the truth about addiction and in true fashion, gets the same results but expecting a different outcome. Sound familiar? Well addiction is nothing short of insanity and new ways of thinking and doing and feeling must be implemented, or the addict will eventually and surely die. If they think they can moderately use or portion their use, they will spiritually die in the least and are slowly buying tickets to their grave. Therefore, the addict must admit they are powerless over their addiction and that they need to ask for help! They must be willing to try new things completely against their comfort zones! They must not always trust their initial feelings as they have become conditioned or pre-programmed like a knee-jerk reaction to provide a false sense of safety. When in all actuality, it is a maladaptive coping skill keeping them further away from the light and truth, making recovery nearly impossible!
“If you always do what you have always done, then you will always get what you have always gotten; and you will always feel the same way you have always felt. It’s time to change the way you think, do and feel or DIE!”
Author-Benjamin D. Jones, LCSW (Clinical Program Director for Zion Recovery Center)